REVEALED; SOME WOMEN FAKE ORGASM

SURPRISED? DON'T BE.. NOT ALL THE 'ORGASMS ARE REAL.

The other day i was with some of my friends and we were discussing about ladies who fake orgasms. Amazingly, more than half of the ladies present admitted honestly that they had faked orgasm sat least once in the past.

from that discussion and similar once i had in the past on ladies night out, i deduced that many women are faking orgasms when they are having sex. It is an interesting part of human sexuality and i decided to talk about here.

  we all know that faking orgasms is like lying to your partner, and what are the consequences of such a lie?

  One of the reasons ladies fake orgasms is just to boost their partners self esteem. On one hand they feel sexier, claiming to reach the peak of pleasure and on the other hand they try to ensure their partners efforts were not useless. And while some acting can be good enough to keep your romance look good on the surface, the lies and other problems will sooner or later appear as a result of faking orgasms.

  The most common problem that can arise through faking orgasms is sexual dissatisfaction. Because you always lie about the orgasms, your partner will never know he ain't getting it right. He will never get to learn to satisfy you and do those things you secretly wished he would do. being convinced of his expertise in pleasing you, he will never be able to pleasure you better.

  The best way out of this situation is to tell your partner what you really wan't. help him find your pleasure spots. Always direct him on what to do and how to pleasure you.You may not say it in words but rather with your actions, guiding him with your hands and actions. Try to be responsive and always encourage him when you really appreciate what he is doing. Don't assume he knows or is supposed to know how to pleasure you. Every woman is different and so are their pleasure spots and turn-ons. Don't let him go on thinking what worked on his ex works on you too.. You'll only keep on suffering and snicking out to masturbate after every bout of sex. 

  also you should not expect to have orgasms every time you have sex,some times you may simply have pleasure without acting the earth shattering orgasms. You may tell your partner about the pleasure you had with him and he won't be bothered about dissatisfaction.

  Learn to enjoy the happy moments with your partner and don't focus on orgasms. If it happens-, it is just fine, if it doesn't and you like sex-, it is fine too.

  You are in charge of your pleasure and your partner helps you to get the new unforgettable experiences. If something goes wrong, give him some clues, always try something different and new. Changes are good for any sexual relationships as you both will be open to new sensations, your experiences will always be fresh whether you are always having orgasms or not.

10 BIGGEST SEX MISTAKES MEN AND WOMEN MAKE

SEX...... IT IS NATURAL

DO WHAT FEELS RIGHT AND YOU ARE PROBABLY IN THE BALLPARK, RIGHT? WRONG!

MEN

• They jackhammer. Some men make the mistake of thinking that the harder and faster you fuck a woman, the better you are as a lover. But this is crude and unromantic.Most women don't like it that way. Pounding like an oil rig will only make your partner think you are using her for friction, and mess up her hair beyond repair. Yes, it looks like good 'action' sex on screen, but in real life you need to mix it up a little.

• They forget about the sensual in sexual. Food, dancing, music, massage...if you make your day more sensual, you'll end up having more sex in the long run. Eye contact and just plain old making out is imperative in keeping things hot.

• Some don't take time to romance a woman and put her in the mood. They just ring the bell and go in. There are many things a man ought to do before penetration. The clitoris is a small and highly sensitive piece of high tech equipment which a man can play with to turn a woman on. This 'man in the boat' for many is the key to a great orgasm, but just a few rough strokes won't do. You have to really give it enough gentle rubs and sucks.

• Another grave mistake by men is that they imitate movies for their moves.Rather than listen to their partners non-verbals. Feeding each other ice cream while blindfolded, throwing aside all the files on your desk in the heat of passion, sex acrobatics all look good to an audience, but your partner may just like the idea of being under the dark covers instead..'nice and simple'.

• They compare their old years-long romance to the new one as if they are equal. Hormonally, neurologically, our brains and bodies will react to them differently.. This is simply a case of apple and oranges and not apples and apples.

WOMEN

• They assume that nighttime is the best time is the best time to be intimate. Hormonally, women have an easier time of achieving an orgasm in the morning. Also by the time night falls, you both may be too tired from work. Try morning sex with the blinds closed on the weekends when you can sleep in.

• They use sex as a weapon. Withhold it to 'punish' your man and it becomes about power when it should be about intimacy.( It is almost impossible for a woman to cum when she is sad, angry or upset).

• They forget how things they ingest can ingest can affect sex. Alcohol, antidepressants, even a big plateful of pasta! This can slow you down and get in the way of the big O.
  

They compare themselves to other people and assume their neighbors, co workers or best friends are having better sex. These 'desperate housewives' mentality is never accurate, hey lady, let me tell you, you've got no idea what happens behind closed doors. Period!

• They wait for men to come to them for sex. Women want men who read their minds while men always want women who initiate, and be exact and spontaneous when they do. This makes way for a lot of waiting around and eventually leads to no or bad sex.

Does a couple of these sound familiar to you? Then it is time to make revisions! I hope after reading this you can now figure out how to tweak your love life in a better direction.

PS: I would like to know what you think about this article. Pls drop your comment in the comment box. Thanks for reading.

HOW TO MANIPULATE THE CLITORIS AND MAKE A WOMAN RELEASE LIKE A MAN

SOME WOMEN DON'T KNOW HOW TO ORGASM, WHILE OTHERS NEED A LITTLE MORE THAN A WHISPER IN ORDER TO REACH ORGASMIC HEIGHTS.

And then there are others , those women who have the capability to squirt their juices allover the bed, the floor or even on you.

  Although we'd like to believe that every woman is capable of reaching such heights of ecstasy, unfortunately, there are many women out there who disagree. And if they are not willing to open up their minds to the idea of ejaculating, then that's their prerogative.

  

  Nevertheless, if you've got yourself a woman who is sexually in tune with herself, and will be very willing to let you manipulate her vagina until she ejaculates allover you, then this article is for your benefit.

A woman's ejaculate is expelled from the urethra, the same place urine comes out from. And although studies have found the clear liquid is not urine at all, if your girl don't have complete control over her PC (pubococcygeus) muscle, there is a chance she might actually pee on you.

  If this does end up happening,be cool about it. Think about it, it is normal for her to feel she is about to pee when she wants to ejaculate. If she tries to hold it in, she wont ejaculate; she has to let it go.If she does end up ejaculating and you freak out on her, she wont ever try this again. Enjoy the golden shower and don't freak out. Let her go with it, eventually she'll learn the difference between the sensations. And although you can manipulate her vagina as you like, if your woman is inhibited, then chances are she wont b able to reach this pinnacle of sexual satisfaction. She might even get annoyed by the feeling, so make sure she wants it. If you are really ready to find the liquids, then read on to find what you have to do.

  While there are some women who can ejaculate through clitoral stimulation, or through other sex play (penile penetration or even breast sucking) the most effective way to achieve to this outcome is through G-SPOT stimulation with the hands.

  Obviously, we are not implying that you should head directly for the G-SPOT. Start out with some foreplay, lick her clitoris first, get her started. Once she begins to get excited, insert two fingers into her vagina, palms facing up. But don't stop licking her clitoris unless of course you cant do two things at the same time. About an inch or two inside the vagina, you'll likely hit a round ball of skin,- that's the G-SPOT. Keep stroking the area with pressure, it may start to become more solid; just keep on with what you are doing.

  Use your other hand to gently press down the area between her navel and her pubic mound for increased stimulation. If she tells you that she feels like she is about to urinate, assure her that it is near impossible for her to pee, encourage her to just let go. Although her instincts may be to just hold back, encourage her with words like " oh yeah, i cant wait for you to drench my hands", "yeah baby, shower me with your juice".

  As she begins to reach orgasm and starts to ejaculate, prepare yourself to either be greeted by a light gushing liquid or an actual drenching spray. Both are normal, and the amount of liquid can reach anywhere from a teaspoon to a cup so have some towels handy.

    After she gushes like crazy, chances are she'll want a break cos her vagina might become extremely sensitive (think of the tip of your penis after you ejaculate). So don't go for a second round immediately unless you are distinctly sure she is ready for more.

   Achieving the almighty squirt may not be as easy as described above, it may take some experimentation, persuasions and different positions. 

      Stimulate other parts of her body while you are at it. For example, have her lie down on the bed face up, and kneel next to her. While your fingers are stimulating her G-spot, use your other hand and your mouth to manipulate her nipples.

     You could also opt to rotate between penile penetration and finger penetration in the doggy style position.

    And of courser there are women who can ejaculate through sex alone, so place her on a surface where her vagina easily meets your penis and penetrate her making sure only your penis connects your bodies.

     If all fails, well, you can always call on a vibrator to help your woman get in touch with her juicer side..

FOR WOMEN; HOW TO TIGHTEN A LOOSE VAGINA

 KEGEL: THE EXERCISE THAT MAKES YOUR VAGINA TIGHT AND SWEET FOR YOUR MAN.

Kegel exercises are also known as pelvic floor exercises.they are series of pelvic muscle exercises designed to strengthen  the muscle of the pelvic also known as the PC muscle. Dr. Arnold Kegel developed the Kegel exercise in 1948 as a method of controlling incontinence ( leakages) in women after childbirth.these exercises are now recommended for women who has loose vagina. The exercises if carried out properly are guaranteed to make the vagina so tight that the woman would begin to feel like a virgin again. Kegel orgasms is also guaranteed to enhance orgasms in women.

HOW TO DO KEGEL EXERCISE

It takes diligence to identify your pelvic floor muscles and learn how to contract and relax them. Here is how to do it:

• Find The Right Muscles

Insert your finger inside your vagina and try to squeeze the surrounding muscles. you should be able to feel your vagina tighten and your pelvic floor muscles move upwards. now relax your muscle and feel your pelvic floor return to its starting position. You can also try to stop the flow of urine when you urinate, if you succeed you've got the basic move. Don't make a habit of starting and stopping your urine stream though. Doing kegel exercise with a full bladder or while emptying your bladder can actually weaken the muscles, as well as lead to incomplete emptying of the bladder which increases the risk of urinary tract infection.

• Perfect Your Technique

Once you've identified your pelvic floor muscle, empty your bladder and lie down or sit down. Contract your pelvic floor muscles, hold the contraction for five seconds, then relax for five seconds. Try it five or six times in a row. Work up to keeping the muscles contracted for ten seconds at a time, relaxing for ten seconds between contractions.

Maintain Your Focus

For best result, focus on tightening only your pelvic floor muscles. Be careful not to flex the muscles in your abdomen, thighs or buttocks. Avoid holding your breath, instead breathe freely during the exercises.

• Repeat Three Times A Day

Aim for at least ten sets of repetitions a day. you might try to make a practice of fitting in a set every time you do a routine task, such as checking E-mails, commuting to work, preparing meals or watching TV.

• Ask For Help

When you are having trouble doing kegel exercises, don't be embarrassed to ask for help. Your doctor (especially a gynecologist) or other health care providers can give you important feedback so that you learn to isolate and exercise the correct muscles.

   In some cases, biofeedback training may help. During a biofeedback session, your doctor or other health care provider insert a small monitoring probe into your vagina or places an adhesive electrode on the skin outside your vagina or anus. When you contract your pelvic floor muscles, you'll see a measurement on a monitor that lets you know whether you've successfully contracted the right muscles. you'll also be able to see how long you hold the contraction.

• When To Expect Results

If you do your kegel exercises faithfully, you can expect to see results such as tight vagina and less frequent urine leakage within about eight to twelve weeks. For some women the effect is dramatic. For continued benefits, make kegel exercises a permanent part of your daily routine.